Presentation BVM School community strives to combat bullying by educating our students, faculty, and families about it as much as possible. Since there are so many new faces among our Pres Family this year, we wanted to take this time during Anti-Bullying Month to get you up to speed on our program. At the same time, this will be a great refresher course for our returning families. So, please READ ON!
All children and adults within our school learn and say our Anti-bullying Pledge each day, which states:
As members of Presentation BVM School community, we promise:
We will not bully anyone
We will try to help others who are bullied
We will make a point to include others who are easily left out
And when somebody is being bullied, we will tell an adult at school and an adult at home.
This serves as a constant reminder to ALL of how our Presentation community treats each other. Students are given opportunities at least once a month to participate in a Classroom Meeting, where bullying issues are discussed, problems are handled, and life skills in effective communication are taught.
It is our sincere hope that you, as parents and the first teachers of your children, will work collaboratively with us in keeping the message of Anti-bullying alive and well in our students' minds and hearts. That is why you will find a resource like this the third week of each month in the weekly communication. It will be titled “Anti-Bullying BUZZ.” Be sure to check it out as we will include a helpful website or two for you to explore, so that you are properly equipped in helping your child handle the ever present issue of Bullying. Don't forget, too, that our Presentation School website has Anti-bullying websites linked to it. Simply click on “Academics” and the “Anti-bullying” tab.
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Bullying Info and Facts
Defining Bullying Behavior
Many definitions also include:
• The types of Bullying: The behavior can be overt, with physical behaviors, such as fighting,
hitting or name calling, or it can be covert, with emotional-social interactions, such as gossiping
or leaving someone out on purpose.
• Intent of the part of the student with bullying behavior: “It is intentional, meaning the
act is done willfully, knowingly, and with deliberation to hurt or harm,” but there is some
controversy with this statement as some assert that not all bullying behavior is done with intent
or that the individual bullying realizes that their behavior is hurting another individual.
• Distinction about amount and duration: Many definitions indicate that the bullying is “repeated”, but the reality is that bullying can be circumstantial or chronic. It might be the
result of a single situation, such as being the new student at school, or it might be behavior that
has been directed at the individual for a long period of time.
• The implications for all students: It is also important to note that bullying is not just
about the implications for those targeted by the behaviors, but that the behavior can impact all
students in the school, including those who witness the behavior and those that engage in the
• Additional factors: these can include; the differentiation between bullying and harassment,
enumeration of protected classes, statements around the use of technology, how the behavior
impacts educational performance and the physical locations that would fall under the jurisdiction
of school sanctions.
A basic guideline for your child is this: Let the child know that if the behavior [of another
student] hurts or harms them, either emotionally or physically, it’s bullying.
Defining “Harassment” Including Harassment based on
The Office for Civil Rights (OCR) and the Department of Justice (DOJ) have stated that bullying may
also be considered harassment when it is based on a student’s race, color, national origin, sex, or
sex, or disability.
Harassing behaviors may include:
• Unwelcome conduct such as: Verbal abuse, such as name-calling, epithets, slurs
• Graphic or written statements
• Physical assault
• Other conduct that may be physically threatening, harmful, or humiliating
Two Steps to Take If Your Child is Being Targeted by
Bullying at School
It is important that parents approach this situation in a calm manner and that parents keep records
of facts in the situation. It is helpful if parents and school staff work together to resolve the
issue. Parents can use the following steps to resolve the issue.
I. Work With Your Child
Thank your child for telling you. Tell your child that the bullying is not his or her fault. Talk
with your child about the specifics of the situation and ask:
• Who is doing the bullying?
• What happened? Was it
o Verbal bullying?
o Physical bullying?
o Cyberbullying? (Meet directly with the principal if this is the case.)
• What days and times were you bullied?
• Where did the bullying take place?
Also find out how your child responded to the bullying and if other children or adults might have
observed the bullying. Does your child know the names of these people?
Keep a written record of this information.
Practice possible ways for your child to respond to bullying. PACER offers a “Student Action
Plan” that walk through potential action steps.
Tell a school staff (teacher, principal, other staff). Go to step two if needed.
II. Work With The School
Meet with your child’s teacher: Discuss what is happening to your child using information from Step One. Ask what can be done so
your child feels safe at school.
Keep a written record of what happened at this meeting, including names and dates. Make an
appointment to meet with the principal to discuss the bullying situation:
• Share information from Step One.
• Mention your work with your child regarding the situation.
Share the outcome of your meeting with the teacher.
• Mention how the situation is impacting your child
• Does not want to come to school o Is fearful he or she will be hurt
• Complains of stomach aches, headaches, etc.
• Has other new behavior as a result of bullying
Ask if school has a written policy on bullying and harassment. If so, ask for a written copy. Ask
what the school can do to keep your child safe at school, on school bus, etc.
Please visit http://www.pacer.org/bullying/resources/ for more information and to view videos
that might be helpful background information.
Kidpower Teenpower Fullpower International, also known as Kidpower for short, is a nonprofit organization which strives to teach personal safety and violence prevention to all ages. It is dedicated to working together to build cultures of caring, respect and safety for everyone.
There are many excellent articles and resources on their website. One particular article addresses seven practical solutions for dealing effectively with a bullying situation at school.
To access this article, follow the steps below.
Open link below
Choose “Library” tab
Choose “Children and Youth” on left hand side
Scroll down to “Bullying Prevention”
Choose the article “Bullying in Schools: Seven Solutions for Parents From Kidpower”.
Secret has an anti-bullying campaign supported by Demi Lovato: Stand up for what stinks and gang up for good! Get tips and advice and tweet support to other kids. It is great for parents to share with their kids.
Go to meanstinks.com or http://facebook.com/meanstinks
For the past several years, Presentation B.V.M School has had an anti-bullying program. We begin each school year with a special event. This year the theme for our kick-off was “Harvesting Kindness.” An early Monday morning in October, we began with a special prayer service focused on following Jesus' example through being kind and welcoming to all. Throughout the month, the students will be acknowledged for all acts of kindness and will place an autumn leaf on the trees adorning bulletin boards throughout our school symbolizing their kind deeds. We cannot wait to see our trees overflowing with colorful fall foliage!
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BULLYING INTERNET SITES
Here are some valuable resources for you as parents to help your child STAMP out bullying at Presentation B.V.M. Some sites offer info for both you and your child, while others are aimed at you or your child. As you will see this is not only a problem here at Presentation, or in the United States but it is an issue being tackled by parents, teachers and students around the world.
- This site gives straight forward advice to help children stand up to the bully as well as some advice to the bully.
- Lists ideas on how to stop bullying in schools.
- In addition to general bullying info and a game called “Beat the Bully”, there is also info on the PBS site about gossip and how to keep it from damaging your good name.
- Information about what to do in the event of serious bullying problems, as well as additional web site for both kids and adults.
- What is the best way to help your child if he/she is the bully?
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Books Dealing with Bullying
In Stock at the Library
Angel Child, Dragon Child
By Surat, Michele Maria.Dewey: -Fic-
Ut, a Vietnamese girl attending school in the United States, lonely for her mother left behind in Vietnam, makes a new friend who presents her with a wonderful gift.
Bullies are a Pain in the Brain
By Romain, Trevor.Dewey: 302.3
A serious yet humorous guide to dealing with bullies.
The Bully of Barkham Street
By Stolz, Mary, 1920-Dewey: -Fic-
An eleven-year-old bully learns that he must change himself if he wants people to like him.
Help, Someone Get Me Out of Fourth Grade
(Hank Zipzer #7)
By Winkler, HenryDewey: -Fic-
Hooway for Wodney Wat
By Lester, Helen.Dewey: -E-
All his classmates make fun of Rodney because he can't pronounce his name, but it is Rodney's speech impediment that drives away the class bully.
How to Be Cool in the Third Grade
By Duffey, Betsy.Dewey: -Fic-
When Robbie York is marked as a target by a bully at school, he decides that the only way to survive the third grade is by being cool.
The Hundred Dresses
By Estes, Eleanor, 1906-Dewey: -Fic-
In winning a medal she is no longer there to receive, a tight-lipped little Polish girl teaches her classmates a lesson. Includes a note from the author's daughter, Helena Estes.
Jake Drake, Bully Buster
By Clements, Andrew, 1949-Dewey: -Fic-
Jake faces the challenge of cooperating with the school bully on a class project.
Joshua T. Bates Takes Charge
By Shreve, Susan Richards.Dewey: -Fic-
Eleven-year-old Joshua, worried about fitting in at school, feels awkward when the new student he is supposed to be helping becomes the target of the fifth grade's biggest bully.
By Christopher, Matt.Dewey: -Fic-
Having just begun to learn how to snowboard, thirteen-year-old Dennis faces a frightening challenge when he allows a bully to shame him into racing on a difficult slope.
Stepping on the Cracks
By Hahn, Mary Downing.Dewey: -Fic-
In 1944, while her brother is overseas fighting in World War II, eleven-year-old Margaret gets a new view of the school bully Gordy when she finds him hiding his own brother, an army deserter, and decides to help him.
In Stock at the Library
By Wild, Margaret, 1948-Dewey: -Fic-
A fearful boy confronts his biggest fear--the class bully.
The Bully Blockers Club
By Bateman, Teresa.Dewey: -E-
When Lottie is bothered by a bully at school, she helps start a club where everyone is welcome.
By Yep, Laurence.Dewey: -Fic-
Teddy and his little brother Bobby devise strategies using bugs to defeat the school bully.
Dealing with Bullies
By Scheunemann, Pam, 1955-Dewey: 302.3
Describes different ways that bullies hurt others, physically or emotionally, and how to deal with these actions.
By Mayfield, Sue.Dewey: -Fic-
Brainy, shy Anna Goldsmith, having moved from London to Yorkshire, is thrilled to be befriended by Hayley Parkin, the most popular girl in her new school, but over the course of several years it becomes evident that Hayley's motives are not at all kind.
Long Walk to School : A Story About Bullying
By Leaney, Cindy.Dewey: 371.5
The Hero kids help a boy who is being bullied, as well as the one doing the bullying.
Louise Takes Charge
By Krensky, Stephen.Dewey: -Fic-
Louise enlists the aid of everyone in her class and together they outwit Jasper the bully.
Mr. Lincoln's Way
By Polacco, Patricia.Dewey: -E-
When Mr. Lincoln, "the coolest principal in the whole world," discovers that Eugene, the school bully, knows a lot about birds, he uses this interest to help Eugene overcome his intolerance.
Nobody Knew What To Do : A Story About Bullying
By McCain, Becky R. (Becky Ray)Dewey: -E-
When bullies pick on a boy at school, a classmate is afraid, but decides that he must do something. Includes note regarding bullying prevention.
Racing the Past
By Deans, Sis Boulos.Dewey: -Fic-
After the death of his abusive father, eleven-year-old Ricky tries to help his younger brother deal with his residual fears and discovers that running helps him deal with his own anger and the taunts of a bullying classmate.
The Recess Queen
By O'Neill, Alexis, 1949-Dewey: -E-
Mean Jean is the biggest bully on the school playground until a new girl arrives and challenges Jean's status as the Recess Queen.
By Wilhelm, Doug.Dewey: -Fic-
Tired of being bullied and picked on, three seventh-grade outcasts join forces and, using scientific methods and the power of the Internet, begin to create a new atmosphere at Parkland Middle School.
By Caple, Kathy.Dewey: -E-
Arnold the pig and his sister Rose give two bullying classmates a taste of their own medicine when Arnold decides he doesn't have to be a wimp anymore.
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